Could you be the one holding yourself back from your Extraordinary Life?
When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.
Dear Life Voyagers,
Why is it important to receive? The simple answer is because your life and the life of others depends on it.
I recently asked someone how they were doing and their answer was, “I can't complain. You know, I’m realistic. I can’t expect more out of life.”
Really? Is this the way you feel?
Unfortunately this is common. Why are we settling? And when did we make this choice? Most likely we were told that we could not ask for more out of life and, instead of questioning it, we agreed to believe it.
We may feel ungrateful to even ask for more. Perhaps we were told to be happy with what we have because there wasn’t enough to go around. So when we receive something we feel we could be taking it from someone else possibly more deserving. Or since there’s not enough to go around, it’s better not to ask until it’s urgent.
The only one holding you back is YOU.
You are stopping yourself from raising the expectations for the life of peace, happiness, and contentment that you’ve always wanted. When you are truly happy and living an authentic life, you can listen to your inner callings arriving at your own door, and act on them with conviction. Most of us fall short of this kind of living, too afraid to pursue our goals because we don’t want to appear too demanding, too selfish, or too ambitious.
You may have bought into an old thought pattern passed down by others who believed it was important to stick to your limitations. You asked for things in the past but the answer was often “No.”
Or you may have been shamed for asking to begin with.
Do some of these sound familiar? –“Who do you think you are? You think money grows on trees? You’re asking again? You’re going to make everyone else feel uncomfortable.”
So we associate asking with guilt, receiving with shame.
Humans are very bad receivers. Why? Because the belief was taught early on that it's better to give than receive, that there’s something wrong in accepting what we require. So most people never live up to their true potential. Our species is afraid to ask for and receive everything that would allow for true expansion, thriving and development.
Isn't it an interesting fact that most lottery winners end up in a worse financial position after they win the lottery than before? They associated the winnings with shame, unwilling to receive this amazing gift. Unless you can get over this feeling and realize that you are entitled to thrive and prosper, you will squander every new fortune that comes into your life. Like the lottery winner, you sabotage your winnings by discouraging the new friends, lovers, or contacts that come your way.
You don’t go after that new job lead, or ignore your instincts telling you to leave that relationship. You settle for a life that remains pretty much the same, rationalizing that you are just being realistic.
Giving and receiving are actually one and the same. They are part of a loving harmonious exchange, a symbiotic relationship, a yin and yang, where one cannot exist without the other. When you breathe in to take air, your life expands; when you breathe out, you contract. Our hearts pump blood in and out. The whole universe expands and contracts. The same principle applies to us.
Being open to receiving what life has to give us is a state of worthiness. It is a feeling that we are worthy of receiving the abundance and support of life.
All of life naturally expands and contracts. It receives in order to give.
The same principle applies to you. When you receive what you need to thrive, the whole world benefits—for there is more of you now to give.
Life has a natural rhythm. The contraction is as necessary as the expansion. Otherwise, what only grows one way becomes unmanageable. It's called “being in the flow.” When you hear that voice nag you for something greater, something more out of life, then it's time to listen.
You're not taking anything away from someone else when enriching your own life with new choices and greater opportunities. It may seem uncomfortable to everyone else around you, but that's only because they're not used to seeing others listen to their own heart.
It's not always popular or easy, especially in the beginning. But, after a while, you’ll see that by giving yourself the gift of your own life, you're actually giving others the same thing too. Show them the way and make it easier for them to follow in your footsteps.
Get over yourself, literally. It's not about YOU. It's about what you came here for: to share your uniqueness with the world. How will you ever know the unique person you’re meant to be if you're too busy believing you don’t have the right to become it?
Remember the oxygen mask scenario? If you don’t take what you need, you will not survive; ultimately, you will not be of any service to you or anyone else.
Giving and receiving is one continuous harmonious whole, especially when the intention is towards a happy, successful life. The best thing you can do is give yourself the gift of being open to receive the Extraordinary Life that awaits. You’re worth it and, after all, that’s what we’ve been waiting for.
Are YOU Ready?
As you take each step I will be there reminding you of your Magnificence, and Iwill continue to do so, until you are able to see it in yourself.